{"id":2265,"date":"2022-07-26T21:39:48","date_gmt":"2022-07-26T21:39:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/spitzw.vs120063.hl-users.com\/wordpress\/?p=2265"},"modified":"2024-08-29T16:28:35","modified_gmt":"2024-08-29T16:28:35","slug":"dealing-with-conflict-avoiders-and-seekers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spitzwegstrasse.de\/wordpress\/?p=2265","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Conflict Avoiders and Seekers"},"content":{"rendered":"

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And again, labeling or acknowledging what\u2019s happened\u2013 which, you know, hey. But ultimately we need to get to a solution we can both agree with here. Can we try to tone down the conversation so we can do that? Any time you can acknowledge what\u2019s happening between you in a calm, rational, non-accusatory way, it\u2019s going to help further the conversation toward a better outcome. You know, raising voices doesn\u2019t tend to bother seekers. But also try to sort of tap into the avoider side of yourself.<\/p>\n

What is conflict avoidance behavior?<\/h2>\n

Handling these small situations politely but firmly can help you build confidence. These situations are excellent opportunities to practice communication skills. And it gets even worse if you have connected that future you fantasized to one particular avoidant man. So, if you give up hope for him, it seems to you that you will be giving up hope for a positive romantic future. You cling to that dream with all of your might \u2026 and so you cling to him in an atmosphere of increasing despair. By suppressing our external conflict and becoming internally conflicted, we are promoting the inevitable dilemma.<\/p>\n

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